“Failure is not the opposite of success; it’s apart of success.”
– Arianna Huffington
I was afraid to start this blog because I thought that if I couldn’t make it perfect right away, I’d be a failure. I had this constant thought floating in my head, “Why bother starting something if you can’t make it perfect…right?”
WRONG! First of all, perfection does not exist; it is a concept someone made-up to make others feel inadequate. And secondly, choosing not to start the blog would in actuality make me the greater failure.
Choosing not to start the blog would mean that I completely failed at appreciating the process. For everything in life, or at least everything good in life, there is a process. I mean think about it, if you never had to work hard for what you want, then how could you ever truly appreciate the good things when they come?
Success comes from taking action and taking risks. No one ever did anything great by doing nothing (can I get an Amen?). We must be willing to change up our routines, to expand our thoughts and ideas, and to take risks in order to grow. If we constantly seek perfection, and give up at the first sign of failure, than we are truly failing ourselves.
I realize this now; however, perfectionism is still something I face head-on every day. I want so badly to be successful. I want so badly to be good at everything I do. I want so badly for people to like me. And in the process of constantly trying to please others, I often times lose myself.
Once I finally had the blog up and running, I thought things would be much easier. However, that wasn’t the case. My anxiety rose along with my desire for the blog to be perfect. I’d get into fits of constantly comparing my blog to others. And in these fits, the confidence I had in my words and myself diminished. I’d ask myself “what makes them so much better?” I’d pick apart my own blog. I would tear myself down. And on several occasions, I had moments when I’d flirt with the idea of deleting the whole blog, as I feared it would never be good enough.
What I didn’t realize then was that in order to have success, you need to believe whole-heartedly in the product you are putting forward. The thing that saddens me most looking back on those times when I wanted to end the blog was fact that I lost sight of the power my words could have in the lives of others. I lost sight of why I started my blog in the first place.
So the main point I am trying to get across here is to throw away your fear of failure and to never lose sight of why you are doing what you are doing. Having a purpose is the most important part of success. Success is a process and it is a process that begins with you making the decision to cast fear aside and take action.
With all that said, I decided to share with you my 3 pillars of success, which I concocted after devouring the podcast: How I Built This With Guy Raz:
Since success is a process, you are going to need lots and lots (did I mention lots?) of patience. This is something I need continual practice at mastering. But success doesn’t happen overnight, it takes endless time and energy to reach your goals, therefore you’re going to need to foster some patience.
This goes hand-in-hand with patience. Persistence, to me, is similar to the endurance needed when running a marathon. If you go too hard in the beginning, you will soon find yourself tired and discouraged. Success is about finding the right balance of hard work and patience in order to keep you going strong in the race.
Well, this one is pretty much self-explanatory…PUT THE WORK IN! And keep putting the work in.
I hope these tips help and I should have prefaced this by saying that I by no means have mastered all or any one of these. Because as I said before, success is a process…an ongoing, long, hard process. But it is a process worth chasing.