Why is the idea of love so scary, yet so beautiful?
I have loved the idea of love since I was a youngster. I would say my obsession with love began after first seeing Rodger and Hammerstein’s Cinderella (Brandi and Whitney Houston edition). The idea of a man and women living happily ever after filled my heart with so much joy and intense tingles. I wanted this romantic love so so badly.
But as I grew older, reality began to taint my childhood picture of love. I began to see and experience the world of relationships. That is when it hit me, there is no guarantee that the person you like is going to reciprocate those feelings.
And in the world of online dating, where lust replaces love and a swipe replaces the job of actually asking someone on a date, the dating world can seem a little more daunting; rejection can seem a little more real.
You can’t choose or control who loves you back (or in more modern terms,who reciprocates your swipe to the right), and that is a very scary thing. You can open yourself up and let another person in. You can tell them your hopes and dreams, likes and dislikes, and yet this person can still choose to go in the opposite direction.
Rejection is a scary and painful thing. Rejection can make you afraid to love another person. But what I am here to say is DO NOT LET IT.
Love is the most beautiful and pure thing we have in this world. I strongly believe that every single person deserves it, and when you find it, your heart will feel so full it could explode.
Take it from someone who has faced her fair share of rejection and who was afraid to put herself out there, taking the risk is 100% worth it.
One day you will find a person who loves you in every way possible. They will love all your little quirks. They will love you at your best and worst. They will be there for you, to hold you and make you feel at home. One day you will find someone who will make you forget all the past rejections. This person will patch up your heart, shield it, protect it, and fill it with more love than you ever thought possible.
So what I am saying is do not hark on past rejections or allow them to make you afraid to love. Instead, learn from them and realize that these relationships didn’t work out because God had a plan. He was providing you a sign to tell you this wasn’t the right one. This person was not the one who was going to take care of your heart. You deserve real love and you will receive real love, just be patient.
Do not give up <3