When you are dating, it seems as though everything is new and exciting. Each date is new and each day is an adventure. But what happens after the dating stage is over and you become a Mr. and Mrs? How do you keep that fun and excitement alive?
Well first things first, you have to be willing to put in the work and get the creative juices flowing. Marriage is incredible, but it is a never-ending effort to keep things spicy. Both parties have to work together to create the sort of fun and excitement that constantly reminds you of why you fell in love in the first place.
Lucky for you, I have decided to share some tried and true ideas Zac and I have used to keep the laughs going and love flowing since saying “I do” almost a year ago.
Do not take each other too seriously.
This does not mean you should not respect the other person, it simply means that you are never too old to goof around or be weird. For Zac and I, this means creating fun date ideas that showcase our silly and awkward personalities. For example, sometimes when we go to a restaurant we will make up new names and pretend we don’t know each other. Then we will spend the whole night flirting as if it is the first time we ever met. It may sound insane, but it honestly is the most fun you will ever have!
Keep the competition alive.
Warning: a healthy dose of competition can be good fun for a marriage but too much competition can lead to unwanted arguments. Therefore, when I say competition, I mean friendly competition.
Zac and I are both pretty competitive people. He is more vocal about it, I keep my competitiveness reigned in. The perfect way we have found to exercise our competitive spirits is to challenge each other to a one-on-one match, whether that be of soccer, table tennis, or a heated game of pool. Challenging each other in a physical activity is a form of healthy competition, which allows you to have fun while releasing some tension or stress. That is why I will make it a priority to have a game room in our future home, equipped with an elaborate pool table for game nights.
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Plan spontaneous trips.
Getting away from your normal routine can do wonders for your marriage. Life is busy! And unfortunately it is all too easy to get sucked into the pattern of your daily schedule and forget to make each other a priority. Even worse, you can begin to take each other for granted. Spontaneous trips give you the opportunity to reconnect with each other without the cares of everyday life constantly getting in between the two of you.
Added bonus: spontaneous trips are the literal definition of fun and exciting…the whole reason for this article!!
Zac and I absolutely love to travel. And you may be thinking at this point, “I can’t afford to travel, I have loans and other obligations.” I am right there with you. Zac and I do not have much money. We are swimming in student loan debt and finding our footing in the professional world. But the good news is, you do not need to have a lot of money to travel. You can take a day trip to the lake for little to no money. You can plan a weekend get-away for under $100 dollars thanks to Airbnb.
All a spontaneous trip requires is creativity! You know what you can afford, so make it work on your budget!
The element of surprise.
I know not everyone loves surprises…however, I am not one of those people! I love being surprised, but more than that, I love surprising other people. The look on their faces when they recognized how hard you worked to make them feel special is beyond words. The same can be said when you surprise your partner.
As you fall into the routine of marriage, it becomes difficult to spice things up when both of you are exhausted with work, bills, and “adulting” in general. But I cannot stress with enough importance how crucial it is to continue surprising your spouse! It doesn’t have to always be a grand gesture; it can be as simple as picking up their favorite treat on your way home from work. You must be consistent in showing your partner how much you love them, and that starts by simply letting them know how often they are on your mind.